In Daniel Sanchez Arévalo´s Azuloscurocasinegro the main character falls for his brother´s girlfriend who he is visiting in jail and trying to impregnate (see the movie. it is strange but good). Anyway, in more than one scene Jorge, the protagonist, asks Paula, the brother´s girlfriend, “if I had met you under other circumstances would you still have noticed me/still have been interested in me?” Isn´t that a strange idea? or maybe not. maybe it´s totally “normal” to posit the question about all relationships: If i had met you under other circumstances, would you still have been interested in me? I don´t just wonder about that for relationships, although that is curious, I wonder about it for friendships too…and maybe even professional relationships (at times). Are all these different types of relationships just a question of circumstance? If I had met this friend or that friend when I lived in New York or when I was in high school or college, would we still be friends? Or what about this man or that man? Am I only with him because now is a good moment? Or what about the person I met who perhaps would´ve been my friend if I had met them before but now will be somebody I met with whom I never had chemistry? Or what about that man? Maybe I loved him infinitely and maybe he loved me infinitely (or at least quite a bit ) but it doesn´t work because I met him too late or too early in the game? How do you know if it´s just timing? And does that even matter? So what if timing is why it works? It worked, right? But then again, maybe that makes all the difference. Timing is a factor for why it works but there has to be more…. or maybe not. Or maybe this question is like so many others I ask myself, totally unanswerable.