Last night my roommate and I were philosophizing about life and he said that many years ago someone said to him (when talking about choosing a significant others), “what´s your type?” and his answer was “that is ridiculous. i have no type. you can´t have a ´type´in matters of the heart” and his friend answered “why yes you can and you should because if you don´t know what you want, how are you goign to find it?”  Basically the friend´s argument was that the sea is very very big and there are many many fish and if you dont have an idea of what you want in a fish (to follow the metaphor) then you´ll be hungry a looooong time.  Last night when discussing this matter we decided that yes, you can apply it to men but you can also apply it to life.  If you don´t know what you want, then it´s quite difficult to go out there and get it.  My question is, however, how do you know exactly what you want? and how do you go out there and find it? (And I am talking about both men and in life in general).  I find the “how” quite mystifying.  And maybe you have some ideas of what you are looking for and hoping for in your life but how do you get all those ideas to mesh.  ie: for me, i want travel and languages to be a very important part of my life (and my *hypothetical/theoretical* children´s lives) but how do you find someone who wants to share his life with you and tell him, “oh and by the way, in addition to all these otehr really important things…here´s another oen you can add to the list. take it or leave it”.  And this goes for jobs (and many other elements of life) too.  I want to be a teacher buuut all the rollo I have to go through to get a master´s degree to do the tests to get certified…is it worth it?  or do i just throw in the towel and do something else?  what if i go through all that and by the time it´s over find i am over teaching??? is it possible that i will get over teaching?And then there´s geography…oh geography.  so i live in madrid and i am very happy in madrid so then i ask myself, “why in the world would i leave?” and “why do i even feel the slightest inclination to leave?” “do i think there is somethign else out there better?” (not so sure about that one….)  so basically my conclusion in all this babble is that knowing what you want so you can find it seems like a great idea.  if anyone out there can tell me how you get to a. the knowing and b. the putting it all together, let me know.