Chuck Klosterman writes in his “Sex, Drugs, and Cocoa Puffs” about Billy Joel´s “Just the Way You Are.” He says, “It makes me think about all the perfectly scribed love letters and drunken e-mails I have written over the past twelve years, and about all the various women who received them. I think about how I told them they changed the way I thought about the universe, and that they made every other woman on earth unattractive, and that I would love them unconditionally even if we were never together. I hate that those letters still exist. But i don hate them because what I said was false, I hate them because what I said was completely true. My convictions could not have been stronger when I wrote those words, and–for whatever reason–they still faded into nothingness(page 54).” When I read these words, I was quite sad. I, too, have a number of love emails floating in my inbox and am sure there are a few of mine floating in the inbox of past loves. Why did those convictions fade? Are they gone forever? Have they floated off into nothingness?

Outkast in the song “Hey ya” says, “thank god for mom and dad for sticking to-together because we don´t know how”. Is that why there are so many e-mails like that floating about? Have people of our generation simply forgotten that one is enough? Do we keep passing from one person to the other hoping the next cracker-jack box will have a better, more-perfect prize? My parents got together and they were in it for good. It was a promise for life. Can that still exist? Is there someone (or two someones) that can meet and make that kind of promise truly and honestly and til the day they kick it? It´s easy (relatively) to say it on your wedding day but can you commit to be a “team” (as my parents say) and stick it out? I hope so. My grandparents have been married for over 60 years, my parents for 35. I´m not sure. But today I´m feeling optimistic about love so I´m gonna say “yes” and that maybe some loves you have fade away but that´s because the ultimate promise/compromiso is not just about love and passion but about a whole lot more…